Modern Day Habits Cultivate Passion

Brenda Johnson

Brenda Johnson

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Highly passionate people aren’t just lucky.

They share common characteristics.

They work hard, they trust their intuition and they persevere.

Nothing special is required. You don’t have to be gifted. You don’t need permission. You can follow what makes you come alive.

The only thing holding you back are the stories you’ve learned about this path.

Now, let’s look at the key habits of highly passionate people, shall we?

  1. Excitement

Passionate people follow what makes them come alive.

When I was in my late teens, I wasn’t familiar with terms like “follow your passion”, “listen to your heart” or “trust your intuition”.

As the years have passed, I’ve realized that what is relevant to me is what I resonate with in this moment.

I follow my excitement. I follow that subtle whisper within me to check something out. I am drawn by an invisible force to explore certain paths.

I have doubts. I have fears, just like anyone else. However, I’ve learned to just take one step at a time toward my excitement. That has guided me through life for as long as I can remember.

We’ve been taught to listen to logic. Don’t get me wrong, logic has its place, but it cannot live your life for you. It will make you miserable.

This comes down to listening to your excitement, to your inner compass, as I like to call it.

  1. Courage

Passionate people know that following your passion isn’t without its challenges.

Courage is required to walk this path.

Courage is not something you wait for. It is built up through facing your inner demons.

Following your passion requires work, but the good news is that it’s enjoyable work, for the most part.

I dove into corporate America working much of my life as a technology project manager. I became a authority in technology both infrastructure and customized application the majority of my career. I had no idea if I was going to succeed. In the beginning, people doubted if making a living as an independent consultant was possible. Or even worth the time and effort.

I had a passion for problem resolution and understanding technical jargon, so I kept at it, and eventually started making a comfortable living. That took courage, but it wasn’t extraordinary. I just took things one day at a time, and worked hard.

Then I transitioned from corporate America to mentoring those I worked for as well as other project manager’s in the field.

In the future, I don’t doubt that I will transition to something else. Life is constantly changing. All I have to do is listen to my inner compass, and see where life takes me.

Life knows where I need to be. I just have to have the courage to say yes.

  1. Determination

If there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that results rarely come fast. Following your passion doesn’t just happen.

People tell me that I’m a computer genius.  Or excellent at troubleshoot. I seem to get frustrated saying, “no, I do xyz” yet it’s no use.  I’m good at everything they say, plus what I do. I’m not lucky. I’m just determined, and I do my best to pick something that I feel drawn to. It’s pretty easy to get good at something you’re interested in.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t always know if I’m on the right track. I simply follow what is interesting, and leave it at that. If I make a mistake, then so be it. I’m doing what I can in each moment.

That’s all I can do.

I’m not always 100% determined. Even that is okay. I’m as determined as I can be. Determination simply means that I re-focus on taking tiny steps toward what matters.

There are no permanent failures. There are only learning opportunities. If you learn everything you can about blogging, try it for a year, and then lose motivation—that’s fine.

You never know. Maybe you pick up a few skills that will help you down the road.

And if nothing else, you did something you enjoyed.

  1. Positivity

I have bad days like anyone else, but I keep following my heart, my inner compass.

There’s a fine line between being blissfully ignorant and positively realistic. It’s something you have to discover for yourself. Try both, and find your own balance.

Being positive means being optimistic about following your dreams. You do not need permission to say yes to your soul.

You do not need validation.

You simply need to focus on what you can do with what you have. You start where you are, and let life nudge you forward.

That is positivity.

  1. Single-Mindedness

Being passionate doesn’t mean limiting yourself to one passion. I’ve been passionate about health, family, businesses, writing, gadgetry, gardening, and on the list goes.

Most of those passions are now gone. A few remain, such as writing, teaching, and helping.

Even though the fire has fizzled from most of those passions, they all left a spark within me. They taught me something. They broadened my perspective.

My passions change, but what remains constant is my single-mindedness to keep listening to what life is calling out of me.

I won’t pretend to figure out my path. I don’t know what life has in store. Realizing this has freed me up to enjoy this moment, because I don’t waste time obsessing about how life should be.

  1. Growth-Oriented

Following your passion makes you growth-oriented. You tap into something greater than yourself.

You are constantly being asked to step out of your comfort zone, which leads to growth, to evolution. The fun is in winging it~ going with the flow.

I’m always looking to grow. I want to discover more of the truth, to learn more about how the world works.

But you don’t want to lose the fun.

Let’s say you have to choose between two paths.

Path #1 is faster, but requires more discipline and is less fun. Path #2 is slower, but you’ll enjoy it more. In the past, I would’ve chosen Path #1, but now I’d choose #2, because if I’m not enjoying myself right now, it’s not worth it.

  1. Selective

Passionate people know when to say no.

When you say no, you have energy to what you feel called to do.

I used to jump into too many things at once. We all have many interests, which is great, but it’s a double-edged sword.

We want to do everything at once, so we say yes to everything, which means nothing gets done.  We become out of sync.  Out of balance trying to leverage everything and everything.

When I ask co-manager’s and clients what they want to do, they rabble up a laundry list of interests.

It’s hard to focus on just one thing. But it helps to remember that you are experimenting. You simply choose what makes you come most alive, and what you can take action on.

You can’t pick the wrong thing, because any choice leads to learning.

  1. Non-Perfectionistic

Throughout the years I’ve learned to ease up on my perfectionism. Instead of getting stuck on the little details, I’ve started focusing on the big picture.

I’m more concerned about helping you, rather than trying to make my goals feel perfect to myself.

This internal sense of perfection is an illusion, because I’m comparing my internal image of perfection to the external world.

It’s much more important that I do my best, get on with the tasks at hand, and pay attention to the feedback.

For example, if you want to be a project manager, just start. You don’t need a professional certification, or to have everything planned out.

All you need is to get your career started, and start coordinating, assisting in tracking and scheduling or simply documenting. That’s the only way you’ll know if you even like it.

The key is to take a step, listen to your excitement, take another step, listen, step, listen, and so on.

  1. Prioritized

Prioritization goes hand in hand with being selective.

No one has time to do anything. Your to-do list will always be full.

This means you have to prioritize what is important to you. If you don’t, your fate will be to react to life until you turn to ash.

Reacting to life means living a life based on other people’s actions.

Let go of the things that are not important to you. You have to say no to people, projects, and most of your own ideas.

No matter how much you have on your plate, I know one thing: You can always take one step toward what makes you come alive.

It may be a tiny step, but it is always there.

Always.

  1. Self-Motivated

The definition of self-motivated is:

motivated to do or achieve something because of one’s own enthusiasm or interest, without needing pressure from others.

I love what I do.

That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle.

I doubt my ability to exceed the project-level, culture changes, and captivating the team to build upon our successes. I have fears. I have monsters to battle.

I want to watch a movie instead of writing this, but I also know that writing this is what is truly fulfilling. Watching a movie is easy, but it leaves me feeling empty. It feels like unfulfilled potential.

I am on this planet to do what I’m doing right now.

This connection to what I feel called to do, on a deep level, is what motivates me.

  1. Acceptance

Passionate people work with what they have.

Acceptance doesn’t mean passivity.

Acceptance is an inner state of non-resistance.

I resist life like anyone else. But the longer I live, the more I align with reality.

I see that what I want, and what life wants from me are two different things. I’ve also noticed that what life wants is better for me than what I want.

I’ve grown to trust life, and to accept what it brings.

If an obstacle stands in my way, I’ll do what I can to overcome it. If I’m truly stuck, I’ll ask for help, from someone, from life, from my intuition.

No one can truly tell you what to do. I cannot give you a step-by-step, because living a passionate life is unique to you, which means you have to learn to listen to your inner compass.

That is the only way you will live the life you were born to live.

  1. Generous

Service to others is really service to self.

At a certain stage, I lost track of why I’m really doing things.

I know that I feel drawn to mentor leadership and even to write this, but I don’t really know why. It feels good. It’s as if life itself is moving me. My personality, my past conditioning, and my soul are all coming together to dance with life.

From this, generosity flows naturally.

I want to help you. There are boundaries, of course, but the underlying pull to be of service is there.

Perhaps this comes from discovering that helping others makes me feel better than just helping myself.

I came to this realization through helping myself first. That was my critical path. Sometimes you have to help yourself in order to help others. And in turn, “help me, help you” as I would say to my boys growing up so many times it’s now embedded.  It doesn’t matter where you begin, because it always comes back full circle.

  1. Non-Balance

Passionate people don’t get stuck in unhelpful concepts.

I have a tendency to get obsessed with the things I’m interested in.

I don’t worry about balance. Balance has its place, but I listen to my inner guidance, first and foremost.

I’ve noticed a pattern in my life. I tend to be interested in something for anywhere from three months to a few years. I extract what I need, and I move on.

Some interests remain, like mentoring, writing, teaching, and creating which the seed was planted many years ago therefore resurfacing until I get it right.

Start paying attention to the patterns in which your life moves. Your life doesn’t have to be balanced every 24 hours, every week, or even every decade.

Don’t force your life into a mold that doesn’t fit.

What if following your interests naturally leads to the balance your life needs?

  1. Personal Power

When I got out of school at 18, my personal power level was low. As the years passed, I learned to trust my inner authority.

At first, I was hesitant to follow what felt magnetic. With time, I saw the positive results. My mind even got on board to some extent, because it could see that following what felt magnetic led to an interesting life.

I still make mistakes, but I don’t worry about it. Life is fluid. One mistake isn’t going to ruin my life. And even if it does, so what?

I can only do what I can. Worrying about trying to do something I can’t do is pointless.

We all want someone to tell us that we’re on the right track, but it’s not until you begin to trust yourself that you grab ahold of your destiny.

You don’t have to force this to happen. It happens naturally as you go through life. You eventually discover that no one knows your life better than you.

  1. Happiness

“People suffer when they pursue a life or chase a dream that doesn’t belong to them.” – Caroline Myss

Happiness is living a life that is true to my soul.

It’s not about what my mind wants, or what I think would make me happy. It’s about trusting life, and walking the path that was made for me.

Are you pursuing what you think you want, or are you going after what lights up your soul?

The latter is difficult, because it means you have to step out of your comfort zone. Most people run away from their true path.

  1. Fun

There’s a need for discipline, but there’s also a need for fun.

Being too focused on discipline means you most likely have a belief that achievements can bring lasting happiness.

You alone have to discover that this is not the case.

You can find fun in even tedious tasks. This is because we feel the world through our thoughts and emotions.

We live in a virtual reality of our own making.

What changes is not the tedious task, but how you relate to it.

There’s no need to force. Let life live itself. Do your best, and enjoy the ride.

Just enjoy the ride.

  1. Perspective

Passionate people take a step back from time to time.

What are you trying to achieve?

Why are you doing what you’re doing?

Is this what makes you come alive, or are you chasing a ghost, someone else’s idea of a good life?

Sometimes taking a step back is useful.

In the end, what this comes down to is following my excitement. I have to remind myself of that once in awhile. I have to remind myself that I can relax and enjoy myself.

I have to remind myself that there’s no rush.

  1. Realistically Dreamy

Don’t ask others to tell you what’s possible.

They will often only tell you what’s probable.

That’s why following your passion, and walking your own path can be so hard. You have to learn to trust yourself, and sometimes you have to be willing to walk alone.

Many of the things you take for granted today were thought impossible by a past version of you.

I don’t know what I’m truly capable of. The good news is that I don’t have to know. I just have to take one step at a time, and trust my inner guidance.

It sounds simple when I put it like this, but those small steps are often taken on a dark road filled with distractions, fears, and people telling you to stop.

You will doubt yourself on this path. You will be uncomfortable, but that’s okay.

  1. Conditionally Open-Minded

Being flexible and open-minded means different things to different people. I like to think of myself as conditionally open-minded.

If I’ve set my sails for something, I shut out everything else and start taking action. There’s no need for me to keep distracting myself with more information if I know enough to take action.

I try not to get too hung up on getting things perfect. There will always be ways to do things better, but I’m focused on moving forward. I’ll get better as I gain more experience. I don’t have to be perfect right away.

It also helps to look at if I’m getting the desired result.

To take this article in my blog as an example, am I getting my message across to you? This article isn’t perfect, but it’s good enough to perhaps help you in some way. That is a great starting point.

  1. Excuse-Free

Passionate people don’t listen to their own excuses.

I don’t take excuses seriously. Following my passion brings my fears to the surface.

There will always be a reason to not step forward, to remain comfortable.

But I’m aware that if I do that, I will suffer, because I’m not doing what my soul is calling me to do.

Everyone has excuses. Everyone has reasons for not doing that they feel called to do.

Once you realize that your excuses don’t have to stop you, well, life becomes a lot more interesting.

Next Steps

That’s that for this article.

If you want to dive deeper into finding and following your passion, I recommend you check out my ebook collection as a starting point.

May your day be filled with favor and abundance!

1 thought on “Modern Day Habits Cultivate Passion”

  1. Have you noticed that you never feel ready to write that book, craft that course, start a business, or just go after what makes you come alive?
    You never feel ready because you’re looking for certainty.
    You want to have all the details.
    You want to be absolutely sure that everything is going to work out.
    Therefore, you never start, nothing ever happens, and you end up lost in the land of regret.
    The solution is not to berate yourself for not being good enough, but about noticing this pattern, and questioning it.
    Your mind is telling you that you need certainty, otherwise you’ll fail, but you’re already failing by searching for absolute certainty.
    But what about the fear of failure? Sure, it hurts to fail, but what’s the alternative?
    I also deal with all of the above. What’s different for me is that I don’t take it so seriously. I feel it, yes, but I let it be.
    Not all the time, not perfectly, but most of the time.
    I aim for 70-80% good enough
    This doesn’t mean I never plan. Planning reveals options and ideas. The problem begins when you think that your plan has to unfold perfectly.
    If you never start, you never get feedback, and you never have the opportunity to adapt to what’s actually going on. You end up stuck in the fantasy world that is your mind.
    Even knowing all this, you won’t feel ready. The tendency will be to stay where you are. This all means that you have to be willing to start before you feel ready.
    I don’t remember the first time I began doing this, but I’m currently began to shift. The year 2021, and I’m holding myself accountable. I welcome you to come on this journey with me via this very blog after years of hemming and hawing.
    I had to face fear, doubt, and uncertainty. Eventually, I became so sick of sitting still that I started with what I had. When I did, nothing bad seemed to happen. That’s when I began to realize that I could face my fear and doubt. I could start before having everything figured out. I formed connections with business coaches for an extra support system allowing nothing to slip away as before.
    I don’t need a perfect plan
    I just need to know enough to move one inch forward.
    No need for approval, permission, or certainty. Just the willingness to move and learn.
    When you become willing to start before you feel ready, you realize that the world doesn’t end if you fail. Disaster doesn’t strike if someone doesn’t click like.
    What I’m trying to point to here is that your mind doesn’t know what it’s talking about. It worries. It throws up disaster scenarios. It wants to control everything.
    Doing anything new is uncomfortable
    Living a fulfilling life is not found in comfort, but in seeing through the mirage of perfectionism, seeing through the need for certainty, approval, and perfection.
    So, let’s say you want to write a book. How do you take a tiny step? I would start by forgetting the need to write a book. Do you want to write, or do you just like the idea of being an author? If you want to write, then start writing.
    Write one paragraph.
    Share it.
    It doesn’t really matter where or how you start, because it is the act of starting that ignites the machinery of life.
    You write. You keep writing. You learn. You pay attention to what you feel drawn to do. You let that lead you forward.
    You may never feel ready, but so what?
    Why do you take your thoughts so seriously? Why not wonder: What if I take a step anyway? What then?
    Question your own internal world. Question your fear. Conduct experiments.
    See what happens when you start before you feel ready.
    Observe yourself when you take a step toward what you find interesting.
    Take notes. Ponder. Enjoy.
    There is no end goal in life, because it just keeps going, so there’s no need to worry so much about achieving this or that.
    It’s more about living your life, your way.
    That’s what will matter in the end.
    Thank you for helping me, help you.
    Cheers from the Northwoods

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